Resilience can be viewed as many things but ultimately it is the capacity to recover quickly from challenges such as stressful situations or setbacks. Being resilient can support you to adapt effectively and bounce back from debilitating events in our lives that stop us in our tracks. As resilience isn't genetic or hereditary, it's not a trait that people either have or don't have, it can be learnt and practiced and involves changes in behaviors, thoughts, and actions. However, establishing your level of resilience is crucial to understanding whether you need to take action or not to help you through the tough times. From there you can decide what you need to do or help someone you know decide what do do.
So someone complained at work or have given you negative feedback, an unwelcome change of desk or team is happening that's out of your control and by the way you don't want it to happen. You want to just run and hide and hope that no-one speaks to you or sees you and that all will be ok when you surface. What do you do in this situation...
How we cope with the day to day challenges of work is what sets the survivors apart from those who give up. But how do you do this when everything seems so hard and is working against you? You devise a plan and put on your armor that's what. And here's how:
- Stop and consider the big picture. Consider what your priorities are - what really matters most and what really isn't worth your brain cells and breath thinking or talking about. Keep these in mind at all times. Don't sweat the small stuff as it will wear you down.
- Keep work and home life separate work from life. Build boundaries around what happens at home and what happens at work. Try not to allow each to filter into the other unless it's a celebration worth talking about. When you walk out the door of your workplace, hang up your challenges at the doorway, on your invisible challenge hanger. They''ll be there for you to collect in the morning if you need them.
- Remember the last time. A good way to prepare for the worst is to remember one of your previous setbacks. Given the chance again, what would you do differently? What's the one lesson you can take away from that setback that will help you be prepared in the next.
- Consider the healing attributes of time. Tomorrow is another day and the day after the same. Will this setback matter then? Maybe. How about next week, next month or next year? Maybe not. What seems thoroughly disappointing now, may not mean a thing later so hold on to this thought.
- See every setback as an opportunity. We can all learn something from our setbacks if we choose to. Expect setbacks to occur but be prepared and don't make the same mistake twice (if it is indeed a mistake). Take from it what you can to move forward and prepare yourself for if it ever happens again.
Remember - If a great day at work was easy to achieve, everyone would be having one and if success was easy no-one would fail at anything. The sweetest victories lie with those that turned around their setbacks and kicked them in the shins along the way!
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